Do What Makes Your Heart Sing

Written By: Sarah Huffer

Life can run us over. We have daily responsibilities of working, paying bills, saving money on car insurance, washing dirty underwear, and getting the recommended amount of sleep. It is easy to set autopilot and walk through the motions. The drab duties of an adult can be a drag. Keep your enchantment and energy free by doing what makes your heart sing.

How do I know what makes that heart sing?

It’s the one obsession that you can happily get lost in. Maybe you get an energy buzz from it or a sense of calming peace. The description can vary from person to person. This is your love. It’s what makes you feel most alive. It is the time when the world has reason, the ebb and flow appear choreographed, and the traffic lights are always green.

You may already know what it is.

Your thing could be maniac crafting, organizing puppy parties, ancient reading, disturbing comedy, velvet painting, 80’s make-up, pole dance exercising, vegan cooking, futuristic hair, mediumship spirit writing, artichoke gardening, jellyfish scuba diving, cookie faced baby cuddling, galvanized tutu making, stamp collecting, under ground bunker remodeling, budget traveling, gold fishing…or literally singing. It is your unique interest. It doesn’t matter what it is, just do more of it!!

I don’t know what makes my heart sing…

You are in an incredible place! You get to explore what your thing is! Try it all. You don’t have to pick just one. The heart has many songs! Its never too late to start, whatever level you are on.

What interests you? What makes you tick? If you had all resources and time available, what would you do? What was your favorite hobby when you were young?

Make a list of ALL the things, even if you have never tried them before, even if you will need to practice, and even if it seems impossible!

Why Should I?

The best part is no one else in the entire world can offer your original perception, ideas, or creativity. You are one of a kind. You are the only one who can do this like you. Life is short or really long, whichever way you choose to look at it, you want to spend time with what makes you feel enchanted.

You are helping people. Believe it or not posting your afternoon outfit inspires others. It helps others find their individual spark. You invoke others to let their light shine. When you offer your unique energy into the big world it immediately contributes to more peace and bliss counteracting what appears as terrible. Perception becomes clearer, smiles brighter, and people become friendlier. The positive energy becomes quickly contagious blanketing those around you with all the benefits.

You are helping yourself. People, often, find when they experience what makes their heart sing, its an instant mood booster! The connection is undeniable. The sense of higher purpose is restored. Letting your heart sing offers an actual break from the ordinary. The transformation is life changing. Allow non negotiable time for yourself. Everyone will love having a spirited more happy you. Go play!

Don’t waste your time on nothing to do! The world needs more thinkers and doers…less watchers.

The Reward System Blowing Parent’s Minds

By: Sarah Huffer

Kids are cute right? Totally cute, until you realize they are lazy little fruit snack goblins who are on the road to living in your basement until 40 years old never cleaning up their plate without being reminded. So here is the first step to get their shoes out of the middle of the floor:

We thought it was important to not give our daughter an allowance, because we think she should do some of these things without being paid and just because she is part of the family.
Our family has unsuccessfully tried many ways to get my child to cooperate in the house, until NOW!

1. What You NEED:

We found a large container. Went outside for a few rocks to start. We labeled 5 rewards onto the jar with the largest prize on top.

Seriously…its that easy!

 

2. Choose Reward:

Ie: bike, tablet, cash, something they really want. They do not have to be extravagant or cost money. Fishing with Dad, Family Board game night with pizza, park with mom. This is the time to bribe with the lego set or baby doll they have been dying to get! Let the child pick the prizes(with some of your suggestions), so they are motivated to get them. This is critical to the process.

More ideas for prizes:

  • Shopkins
  • Fidget Spinner
  • Ice cream
  • Pedicure
  • Go cart riding
  • Putt putt golf
  • Dave & Busters
  • Trip to the Zoo
  • Trip to Gas Station for candy and drink
  • New flashlight
  • New shoes
  • Lazy Day
  • Pizza Party
  • Kid picks restaurant
  • Later bedtime Night
  • Friend Sleepover
  • Movie
  • Netflix subscription here
  • Gift cards
  • New Pet fish
  • Park Picnic

 

3. Choose the Desired Behaviors:

Contribute to the family. Do homework. Keep room clean. Contribute kindness to others. Emotional control. Practice piano/handwriting, empty the dishwasher, be in bed by 8 pm. You know what your child needs! Make sure the desired actions are all different. Keep it extremely simple and clear. No more than three behaviors. The jar is ongoing so there is plenty of opportunity to introduce new desired behaviors on the next jar.

The Rules Are Simple:

The child receives a stone for each behavior attained that day. The child cannot lose stones that they have earned. Once the stones are in the jar, they cannot be removed. The repercussions for not reaching desired behavior is not getting that behavior stone that day. Remember tomorrow is always a new day brimming with the opportunity to make good choices.Gifting stones is at your discretion.

Keep the behaviors simple. Did the child unload the dishwasher or not? Did the child follow directions easily? You want the child to succeed at this. Do not complicate the process. It builds their confidence and the good behavior becomes habit.

Special Circumstances: On the contrary if daughter had a meltdown and went to her room and got herself together, she was still eligible for a stone. She corrected her mistake. Progress is always stone worthy!

Helpful Hints

  • Make sure the child is earning a prize approximately every 2 weeks. Stones do not have to be same size, but helps if they are close. My daughter would pick the seemingly bigger stone to try to up her jar. I would let her put in the stones before bed. Commonly used the phrase, brush your teeth and we will put stones in your jar…2 birds one stone 😊 If I put them in she always watched. Be consistent. Do not forget to put stones in the jar.
  • Test how many stones it takes before they reach their goal. That way you know the expected time for the reward. Is it at a good time? Will you be able to afford it? Then you can expect its arrival. Be consistent. You must make good on your promise. Provide the reward right away. It builds trust.
  • Kids are usually excited to get this started, so have the materials ready when you introduce the idea.
Let me know what kind of rewards your child picked, we love sharing new creative ideas. It’s an ongoing jar so I am always looking for new ones! What behaviors are you promoting? How has the stone jar worked for your family so far?
Comment Below 🙂

 

Your Grudge is Ruining You

“Not forgiving someone is like drinking poison expecting the other person to die” -unknown

People can be sh*tty. We all know that! Anyone who has been in public understands this. Anyone who has been involved in a relationship, ever, can agree. Your upset at your mother in law, because she made a remark about the cleanliness of your home, your sister commented about your midsection size in that dress, and your childhood best friend for stealing the love of your life. All these reasons are justified. However, it’s causing severe distress in your life.

Negativity directly affects universal energy

It’s dangerous to walk around with hate, grudges, and negative energy in your heart. When you walk in a room all that trash walks in with you. Some of us energy sensitive folks can smell you from a mile away! Each person you encounter is imprinted with that smudge from your ex-boyfriend. This smudge gives those people permission to pass on their negative energy. Ever stepped into the Department of Motor Vehicles on a busy Monday? YIKES! Share light not shadow!

Besides we all know the universal law that what you think about becomes. Like attracts like. You attract what you think about. I know what you’re saying, “If this is true. How come I haven’t won the lottery?” My response would be, “How many times have you thought about winning the lottery compared to if you will have enough money for your electric bill or how bad you need a new coffee pot or what an asshole your boss is? This is a post for another day, but to finish the thought how much action or energy to invest in the thought? The second part of believing is doing!

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You are poisoning yourself, not them

“Not forgiving someone is like drinking poison expecting the other person to die,” -unknown

You make yourself sick over thoughts about this person. You are drinking poison over and over. Each minute spent before bed plotting your revenge or imagining a scenario where you can tell them off the way you originally should have is compromising your health! That person can’t feel the anger you have for them. Only you can. Boiling toxic energy and rage inside to damage someone else is insane!

Set yourself free

We already know your internal pain is not hurting your nemesis. Break the obsession and grant yourself the freedom you deserve from it. Do not engage in the negative activity. Consider it universally handled. A non-reaction does not mean you chose to do nothing. It means you decided to reject the poison the contender has provided and remain in the positive state you naturally are. The best revenge is accompanied by kindness. The day you walk into work and are not bothered by your coworkers attempt to one up your efforts is the day you become Batman! Do not be a victim to circumstance. Don’t be someone whose mood swirls like the wind according to how everyone else woke up this morning. Control what you put in your heart and your whole life will change drastically! The vampires will not be interested in pushing your buttons, anymore. The Universe will award your efforts. Everyone will notice your powerful positive energy is untouchable and you will live happily ever after just crushing it at life!

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I get nowhere being big and scary. I have no power in force and punishment. I get no reward for time spent on a grudge. I am the only sufferer. It’s a weird vendetta between me and the hologram of my enemy. My target may hear 5 percent of how I feel but I hear it ALL. I take all that poison. They are unaware I wake up at 3 a.m. hating them. I do. My poison. They don’t know that tv show reminds me of them. I do. My poison.

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Freeing them will free you. You bless the whole situation by freeing them/yourself.
The barista at the Starbucks. I free her. My best friend’s father who never trusted me, I free him. No matter how stupid it sounds! Free the police officer that pulled you over even though others were going faster. Officer prick is free. Free your husband for not noticing your new hair cut…and not taking out the trash…and leaving the milk out…you get the idea.

bird escape

Free the people who have upset you, so you can be free! Your freedom is more valuable than keeping them prisoner. Do it for yourself. Take the opportunity to eliminate the baggage. There is no extra time to waste on sh*tty people. Besides, you have wonderful ideas to think up, traveling plans to make, and light to shine on this world! Focus on that!

Written By: Sarah Huffer

Death Doesn’t Go with the Décor: Reflection of Grief

After my Mother passed, my sisters and I sorted through her things. We picked from her collections from oldest to youngest, one piece at a time. The items we all wanted would be settled with a fair game of rock, papers, scissors. It was hard enough to get out of bed right now, even harder to divide her entire life belongings. Yet, here we were, in our mother’s house, but she wasn’t home.

I unloaded the boxes out of my trunk when I got home. And there she was, my mother. My mother was now an assortment of collectable and uncollectable items. She laid there in a coffee tin full of marbles and a ceramic smiling panda with a broken hand. If I looked hard enough around my mother’s house I would find that broken panda hand in a jewelry box or stationary kit.

I craved her.

I was addicted to my mother and not a fix was out there. I needed her. I needed her friendly face. I needed the unconditional love with that smile which validated everything was going to be okay. I needed tomato soup and grilled cheese. I needed the scent of Cover Girl make-up and Marlboro Lights mixed and somehow smelling beautiful when it radiated from her clothing. I needed to know that when everything in life goes wrong that at least I had Mom. My security in this world vanished. In exchange for my mother, the world gave me half a box of useless, random junk.

The trade was uneven. I accepted pennies over my $100 bill. The emptiness is unbelievable. It’s odd to feel your heartbeat and know its hollow all at the same time. I believe my mom was sacrificed for some big meaningful purpose. I can’t seem to find the rhyme or reason for it, though. Maybe we have all grown from missing her.

As long as I walk the world like I’ve been cheated, I lose.

Truth is, I wasn’t cheated. I was blessed by God himself. I had the best Mother in the world. I had her for twenty-eight wonderful and confusing years. I am brave. I am strong. I am happy. I won.

I placed the broken ceramic panda on a shelf in my house. It doesn’t go with my décor, but neither does my mother’s death. I love that stupid panda.

 

Written By: Sarah Huffer

Succeed At Failing

Still not sure what I want to be when I grow up, but I WILL find it!

 By: Sarah Huffer


I left another job. Looking closer into the situation I’m fearful I’ll never find my spot. Although, all my jobs have felt like home…deep down I know I’m just a tourist. 

Jack of all trades by now. I’m really struggling in the employment area of my life. I sway whether I need to listen to my inner guidance or that my voice is just a spoiled brat. The really fun part is I get to pick the perception.

I’ve decided I’m going to give whatever this is a shot. Whatever this is that calls me, I’m going to listen and see where it takes me. I’ve realized nothing actually takes ME, I take it where IT wants to go. I’m not going to follow anymore. I’m going to lead…for once in my life. I’m going to stand up brave and say “here we go, are you down?” 

And life is ecstatic I finally understand what it’s been saying for YEARS! 

I’ve been so scared to fail. Pretty ironic for a walking wild card. All my carefully planned pieces only get me what I can see. It’s time to take my risks and just screw this all up!Wow! You totally tanked that workshop last night. What a shitty story you wrote or you literally helped zero people.I want embarrassed reactions and I feel sorry for you e-mails.Who knows maybe the dice will land right and I will reach places I can’t even imagine!   I will grow from there.

I’m naturally good at many things, I’m scared shitless to think there might be something I suck at. I’m going to find that thing.

I can feel myself start to curl up. Negotiate about getting too big and justifying the benefits of being small. My inwards already do not like these very ideas written on paper.

There is no safety net to protect me from this. No pillow to soften the fall. I haven’t felt this way since I was 18 trucking to Florida from Indiana alone. I knew how big it was then, almost like I had no choice.

I have to keep reminding myself that the Universe wants to support me. Believes in me. Loves me. 

I’m going to give failing a shot…maybe I’ll succeed. Either outcome will be better than staying the same.

A Letter To My Scared Little Sister

I know how it feels. It’s like your navigating the world all alone. You’re confused and resistant…we all are.

Life either supports what your doing or it falls apart. Thats how you know you’re next move. When the terrible voices are loud and the right thing comes through as a whisper, it becomes obvious that something BIG must shift. Somethings gotta change, before your very soul shatters into sharp pieces that you hope don’t cut you too deep on the way down. 

Its so personal to you, but not to others. Its your life. It will feel as no one understands.

We do, though.

We do it, too. We crumble in our driveways, tear soaked pillows, kitchen sinks, into vodka cranberry, the last stale cigarette, and out into a vicious rant toward our Applebees server for late appetizers.

Your journey will twist and turn in such poetic ways. Some of the traveling is easy. Some parts of your journey will be painful. Don’t forget the roads that will be dark, kind, boring, brilliant, tired, and mind blowing. Take them exactly as they are.

Remember, don’t make a hole into a bridge. A hole is a hole. Its allowed to be a hole. Try not to take the short cuts, the adventure is unsteady and changes like the wind. Feel all of it. Enjoy the entire walk. 

I want you to know I’m rooting for you. I always will. Your young adult life is beginning and you are in for a beautifully crafted experience designed by God especially for you. 

When I let go of your hand, I will still be checking on you, praying for you, and loving you the entire way. You will be terrified at times, thats how you know you can also be brave. You are gonna be great! 

We all are ❤

Surrender

I surrender.
I surrender what I cannot change. 

I surrender the thoughts that make my soul ache.

I surrender to the idea that some events in life are for viewing and not actually doing anything about it. 

I surrender to the theory that things happen for a reason.

I surrender that I do not have to micromanage every detail of my future for I already am designated with the best plan.

I surrender who I think I should be and rejoice with who I am where I am.

I surrender that what you think about you become.

I surrender what surrounds you influences you.

In this surrendering, I lift these circumstances to you and make myself available to recieve a solution. 

With this surrendering, I sleep peacefully tonight and return to the place where my heart can be free.

Mother’s Day Is

Mother’s Day is about cake for breakfast

too much butter on toast

hot cup of coffee

surrounded by those you love most

 

Mother’s Day is about thoughtful gifts

created from the heart

wrapped and overtaped

one of my favorite parts

 

Mother’s Day is about honoring those mamas

that once walked here before

never forgotten

I love you more

 

Mothers Day is being grateful

for the mommies who are still here

being together

taking turns with listening ears

 

Mothers Day is about feminine sass

not biting your tongue

with a sip of mimosa

makes brunch much more fun!

 

Mother’s Day is sunshine and flowers

gardening in the yard and yummy treats

playing outside

and earthy bare feets

 

Mother’s Day is sloppy kisses

and ginormous hugs

afternoon naps

and cuddles just because

 

Mother’s Day is little hands and sticky faces

that don’t last long

make a mess while you can

dance to that song

 

Mother’s Day is perfectly imperfect

surrounded by giving

available to everybody

Finally, making sense of this crazy life we are living

Unbasic B*tch

Fitting in is the most miserable decision of my life.

Written By: Sarah Huffer

 

Fitting in is the most miserable decision of my life.

I’m clumsy and mostly awkward. Weirdly happy and bright. Somewhere in life, I decided I needed to blend. Like ya’ll blend eyeshadow, I smudged my personality until I became one watered down fragment of a soul without any defining characteristics.

I agreed with the crowd. I contoured my face(I still suck at this). I worshipped fall. I pinned Pinterest projects. Should I buy a salt rock lamp or eat kale? I was powerless to Target.

Even more, I highlighted the best parts of my life to portray my life. In reality, I couldn’t keep up with the dishes. I burn bread. My kids were feeding their healthy dessert to the dogs. My youngest daughter is, literally, pissed off all the time. She only smiles when you are hurting yourself.

This world of Starbucks, Kardashians (except you Khloe, you my girl), and Fitbits blow balls! I hate your paper Mache hanging spheres and your Hobby Lobby chevron color theme! What happened to janky homemade Birthday cakes?! Can we bring that back, please?

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Let’s make imperfect normal. Write a shitty draft, paint a terrible picture, eat pizza rolls for dinner. How else will we have time to live? If I’m keeping up this charade, how will I teach my kids depth and values? Compassion for people? Tribe achievements? I can’t let my kids think this is life.

We participate in a world where social media occupies a portion of our day. Keeping up with appearances and unnecessary updates of our lives has priority over more meaningful contributions. Your attention is valuable. Quit being a sucker.

Ok. I like seeing my family’s baby pictures and pictures of your vacations. Cat videos are hilarious. Somehow, social media has provided a small insight into what is going on in the world. However, I will remind you that between every funny meme and post about your mason jar salad is an overload of disturbing information that you are allowing to litter your mind. These things affect you on a serious level! Every ridiculous rant, sick news article, shared report about physically abused animals you scan, is poisoning your healthy psyche and littering your soul. We are the problem.

I am not on a cloud. I know unspeakable things lurk in the shadows. My proposal is to contribute more positivity than complacency. Instead of sharing the terrible conviction, share an article on how the community is solving the problem. Let’s shine a light on what is beautiful and cast the horrendous into nonexistence. Who knows…all your happy vibes may inspire someone on the edge of doing unspeakable things into being a better human being.

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You all have choice here. You have all the power! Let’s spend a portion of our social media time connecting with a human, contributing to our country, or adding light and love into the stratosphere? Please fill my news feed with posts about you achieving, making a difference, or an impactful way love has bestowed a change in your or somebody else’s life…and laughing baby videos, because…well…I believe they can change lives.

 You are an unstoppable force, start acting that way!

 

 

 

 

 

Work in Progress

Written By: Sarah Huffer

I finally get it.

Let me start a few months before the revelation, though…or this blog post will be really short.

I left a job I really loved. Late nights, celebrities, fast paced, and creative. It had all the specialness and excitement I needed. I have to be special. Ordinary eats me alive.

My work life was running swell! However, I have a young family. With my time away on weekends and nights, we struggled to be together. All of us together. I knew this job wasn’t my “calling”, but I was okay with that trade. Missing out on my family wasn’t working for any of us. I left.

I interviewed for one of those adult jobs and started right away. This job was miserable. The atmosphere was stale. The people were stagnant. Even the building structure seemed to complain. I sat at a desk everyday. Miserable. Unchallenged. Disenchanted.

I questioned how I got here. All these years, all these decisions…led me here, why? I have avoided this very place my entire life. It sucks here. Its lame. I want to staple my fingers to my face just to go home early. It is THE worst.

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I needed my tools. My strengths shine by manipulating negative energy and transforming perception. I’m just brilliant at it. Even my blood type is B positive! I’m not bragging. I have over 12 years of experience and research. I am qualified. Besides, I know YOU have a talent! It is not arrogant to announce you are a gifted birthday party planner, number magician, or a champion chef. You either got it or you don’t (besides we are safe to say what we want here)!

I needed a shift. I requested a miracle.

I wrote out all the pros and cons of the new workplace. Pen to paper can be healing. I find writing lists and hashing it out there solves things for me. I can also find this peace from listening to music. Not playing an instrument or singing the lines. I am not good at either of those things. Allowing that musical and emotional energy to travel through my bones saves me.

That was one cool thing about this job. I was in a cubicle, undisturbed, and able to listen to my music and inspirational books ALL day! I read over 40 audio books in 2 months(I am fully aware you do not read an audio book) !! It’s all the same though 🙂 I was going through some intense spiritual training.

My miracle arrived. My prayer answered. Divinely guided to the exact place I was supposed to be. The Universe is always clever like that. God had been trying to get me alone.

I need to provided a little history real quick: I want to help people! I want to contribute to the light in this world in a really BIG way!!

God, the Universe, Science, Spirit, or whatever you believe in knew I needed to sit my ass down if I was ever going to achieve my vision! I had to come here, away from distraction, return “home”, in the presence of my tribe energy/soul group who lightens my heart, where I can remember my divine appointment. I was in need of filling my soul back up. I refueled it-everyday-at work-with my music, workshops, and inspirational books. I was finally being paid to do exactly what I love with no compromise or sacrifice. That was my first step.

This blog is my next step. You are my next step.

We will be forever evolving here. This blog will change and grow. The message will shift. The energy will transform. A living work in progress.

The intention will always be the heartbeat. To show up and shine bright so others may do the same. Share love instead of fear. Always lift others up, never down.

 

Thank you for reading this. Thank you for following. Thank you for showing up.