Do What Makes Your Heart Sing

Written By: Sarah Huffer

Life can run us over. We have daily responsibilities of working, paying bills, saving money on car insurance, washing dirty underwear, and getting the recommended amount of sleep. It is easy to set autopilot and walk through the motions. The drab duties of an adult can be a drag. Keep your enchantment and energy free by doing what makes your heart sing.

How do I know what makes that heart sing?

It’s the one obsession that you can happily get lost in. Maybe you get an energy buzz from it or a sense of calming peace. The description can vary from person to person. This is your love. It’s what makes you feel most alive. It is the time when the world has reason, the ebb and flow appear choreographed, and the traffic lights are always green.

You may already know what it is.

Your thing could be maniac crafting, organizing puppy parties, ancient reading, disturbing comedy, velvet painting, 80’s make-up, pole dance exercising, vegan cooking, futuristic hair, mediumship spirit writing, artichoke gardening, jellyfish scuba diving, cookie faced baby cuddling, galvanized tutu making, stamp collecting, under ground bunker remodeling, budget traveling, gold fishing…or literally singing. It is your unique interest. It doesn’t matter what it is, just do more of it!!

I don’t know what makes my heart sing…

You are in an incredible place! You get to explore what your thing is! Try it all. You don’t have to pick just one. The heart has many songs! Its never too late to start, whatever level you are on.

What interests you? What makes you tick? If you had all resources and time available, what would you do? What was your favorite hobby when you were young?

Make a list of ALL the things, even if you have never tried them before, even if you will need to practice, and even if it seems impossible!

Why Should I?

The best part is no one else in the entire world can offer your original perception, ideas, or creativity. You are one of a kind. You are the only one who can do this like you. Life is short or really long, whichever way you choose to look at it, you want to spend time with what makes you feel enchanted.

You are helping people. Believe it or not posting your afternoon outfit inspires others. It helps others find their individual spark. You invoke others to let their light shine. When you offer your unique energy into the big world it immediately contributes to more peace and bliss counteracting what appears as terrible. Perception becomes clearer, smiles brighter, and people become friendlier. The positive energy becomes quickly contagious blanketing those around you with all the benefits.

You are helping yourself. People, often, find when they experience what makes their heart sing, its an instant mood booster! The connection is undeniable. The sense of higher purpose is restored. Letting your heart sing offers an actual break from the ordinary. The transformation is life changing. Allow non negotiable time for yourself. Everyone will love having a spirited more happy you. Go play!

Don’t waste your time on nothing to do! The world needs more thinkers and doers…less watchers.

The Reward System Blowing Parent’s Minds

By: Sarah Huffer

Kids are cute right? Totally cute, until you realize they are lazy little fruit snack goblins who are on the road to living in your basement until 40 years old never cleaning up their plate without being reminded. So here is the first step to get their shoes out of the middle of the floor:

We thought it was important to not give our daughter an allowance, because we think she should do some of these things without being paid and just because she is part of the family.
Our family has unsuccessfully tried many ways to get my child to cooperate in the house, until NOW!

1. What You NEED:

We found a large container. Went outside for a few rocks to start. We labeled 5 rewards onto the jar with the largest prize on top.

Seriously…its that easy!

 

2. Choose Reward:

Ie: bike, tablet, cash, something they really want. They do not have to be extravagant or cost money. Fishing with Dad, Family Board game night with pizza, park with mom. This is the time to bribe with the lego set or baby doll they have been dying to get! Let the child pick the prizes(with some of your suggestions), so they are motivated to get them. This is critical to the process.

More ideas for prizes:

  • Shopkins
  • Fidget Spinner
  • Ice cream
  • Pedicure
  • Go cart riding
  • Putt putt golf
  • Dave & Busters
  • Trip to the Zoo
  • Trip to Gas Station for candy and drink
  • New flashlight
  • New shoes
  • Lazy Day
  • Pizza Party
  • Kid picks restaurant
  • Later bedtime Night
  • Friend Sleepover
  • Movie
  • Netflix subscription here
  • Gift cards
  • New Pet fish
  • Park Picnic

 

3. Choose the Desired Behaviors:

Contribute to the family. Do homework. Keep room clean. Contribute kindness to others. Emotional control. Practice piano/handwriting, empty the dishwasher, be in bed by 8 pm. You know what your child needs! Make sure the desired actions are all different. Keep it extremely simple and clear. No more than three behaviors. The jar is ongoing so there is plenty of opportunity to introduce new desired behaviors on the next jar.

The Rules Are Simple:

The child receives a stone for each behavior attained that day. The child cannot lose stones that they have earned. Once the stones are in the jar, they cannot be removed. The repercussions for not reaching desired behavior is not getting that behavior stone that day. Remember tomorrow is always a new day brimming with the opportunity to make good choices.Gifting stones is at your discretion.

Keep the behaviors simple. Did the child unload the dishwasher or not? Did the child follow directions easily? You want the child to succeed at this. Do not complicate the process. It builds their confidence and the good behavior becomes habit.

Special Circumstances: On the contrary if daughter had a meltdown and went to her room and got herself together, she was still eligible for a stone. She corrected her mistake. Progress is always stone worthy!

Helpful Hints

  • Make sure the child is earning a prize approximately every 2 weeks. Stones do not have to be same size, but helps if they are close. My daughter would pick the seemingly bigger stone to try to up her jar. I would let her put in the stones before bed. Commonly used the phrase, brush your teeth and we will put stones in your jar…2 birds one stone 😊 If I put them in she always watched. Be consistent. Do not forget to put stones in the jar.
  • Test how many stones it takes before they reach their goal. That way you know the expected time for the reward. Is it at a good time? Will you be able to afford it? Then you can expect its arrival. Be consistent. You must make good on your promise. Provide the reward right away. It builds trust.
  • Kids are usually excited to get this started, so have the materials ready when you introduce the idea.
Let me know what kind of rewards your child picked, we love sharing new creative ideas. It’s an ongoing jar so I am always looking for new ones! What behaviors are you promoting? How has the stone jar worked for your family so far?
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